Had an interesting conversation over the weekend which a bunch of single (recently separated and a few recently divorced) friends. The conversation brought to my attention the issue, difficulties and excitement of that first sexual encounter with someone else after 10 year (or so) years of marriage.
Realised from that conversation that we all approached that one differently. One mate of mine jumped in head first (so to speak) within the first week of him and and his ex deciding to go different ways. Well others waited up to two years for various reasons.
Guess the general gist is – wait until you’re comfortable. But ummm please don’t wait two years – ahhhh. Apologies to Lynne but must say you’ve got will power girl.
But in seriousness once the pain and shock wears off, it’s a thought that does creep up on you. If you’ve been married for quite a while then chances are you might be a little nervous about it. And of course that’s totally ok. Just wait till you feel ready or if you find yourself tearing your hair out.
From the conversation on the weekend seems like most of us followed the same pattern. Waited a certain amount of time till we were ready and comfortable – then went crazy. At that point it’s good to build up your network of single friends so that when you are out on the prowl you’ve got support. Remember there’s safety in numbers.
